"Dr. Dar, I just started dating this guy a month ago. We're both in our late 30s. Things were going great until last weekend. He told me he wants to know how much money I make so that we can split all expenses. My sister said to get away from this guy -- that he's socially inappropriate. What do you think? Am I missing something or is this what people do nowadays when they date?" Kathy
Dr. Dar says: "I am astounded at how little people these days know about dating etiquette. I would be very alarmed and concerned when a guy asks about financials and sharing income after only one month of dating. This is not normal at all and is a big honking red flag you should pay attention to.
You have every right to be shocked and concerned. If you did not feel comfortable letting him know that this conversation is highly inappropriate and that you are not investing your finances in this relationship after one month of dating, then that is another red flag of bigger issues to come. He may be showing signs of his controlling or dominating nature. This is too big a concern to ignore so I agree with your sister, pass up on this guy and find one who loves, honors, and respects you and your finances! Wishing you the best in life and love."
Finances are an extremely important component of relationships. Dr. Dar addresses Kathy's question in depth on Fox News Rising:
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CHARLOTTE, NC: Kathy asks Dr. Dar: “I just started dating this guy a month ago. Last weekend he asked how much money I make so that we can split all expenses based on our relative income levels. Dr. Dar, what do you think and what advice do you have for me as to how to handle this situation? Am I missing something or is this what people do nowadays when they date?”
FNR's Terrance Bates sits down with relationship expert Dr. Dar to help Kathy figure it out!
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I am so impressed at how Dr. Dar answer your questions. Yes, she is right. You need to get away with this guy. He should not be asking you about the status of your finances. It is really inappropriate. They are still more guys out there who is willing to love you.